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  • February 14, 2017

    Conflict as a Gift

    Conflict as a Gift

    A key belief and teaching in conflict resolution is that conflict can be useful--an opportunity to learn, grow and see something the conflict is trying to show us.

    Why then do we run from conflict or turn it into life- and relationship-threatening wars? Why do we behave as if conflict is the opposite of a gift--a terrible, negative thing? Some reasons are fear, poor role models, and lack of skill, to name a few...

  • November 10, 2015

    Unlikely Teachers and Hidden Gifts

    Unlikely Teachers and Hidden Gifts

    November is an inspirational month. I find the cultivation of gratitude a powerful path to centered presence and to finding the gift in every moment. Thanks-giving permeates my thoughts. And there is so much to notice....

  • February 3, 2015

    A Difficult Conversation with My Husband Turns Into an Unexpected Gift

    A Difficult Conversation with My Husband Turns Into an Unexpected Gift

    It was a difficult conversation with my husband, one of many on a theme that had followed us over the course of our 40-year marriage. I had made a statement that I thought reflected appreciation. However, he interpreted it as criticism and became upset. I could immediately see how the statement was misinterpreted and wanted to interrupt and tell him the real meaning and the mistake he'd made in thinking I meant something else.

  • April 2, 2013

    Conflict Is Not Fun: True or False?

    Conflict Is Not Fun: True or False?

    On the Aikido mat, regardless of one’s rank, there is always a _sensei_ (teacher) with more experience, wisdom, and perspective, to whom the student looks for continual improvement. I am lucky to have such mentors in my life. After last month\'s _Ki Moments_ post, I received a reminder from my first Aikido _sensei,_ Tom Crum...