Practicing mindfulness in the middle of a conflict demands a willingness to stay present, to feel intensely, to override our negative thoughts, and to engage our breath to maintain presence with the body. Like any skill, it takes practice.
~ Diana Musho Hamilton
Emotional triggers--they get me everytime. Values tread upon, injustices overlooked, or just plain wrongheadedness! It takes continual awarenss to notice myself being hijacked and to choose a different path.
I do practice what I teach, however, and over the years, I've become more centered in times like this. Or let me say, I've traveled the path from uncentered to centered more quickly and, generally, lead a calmer and more focused life. But ask my husband, sisters, brother and mom--I hope they'll say the same.
Recently, I read an article in the Harvard Business Review by Diane Musho Hamilton, internationally recognized mediator, facilitator and the author of Everything is Workable. The article opens with one of the easiest-to-understand descriptions I've seen of just how and why we get triggered and the consequences that follow from being unconsciously reactive....