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• January 28, 2020
  28Jan2020

  I'm About to Learn Something!

  

  Whenever conflict, large or small, comes along we are about to learn something.
  —Donna Schaper, Senior Minister at Judson Memorial Church in New York City.

  I write often about the opportunities inherent in conflict, and about the importance of practice. The concept of practice applies to any skill we want to cultivate and, without doubt, practicing new conflict and communication skills requires some risk-taking.

  Yet, every conversation we engage in can be seen as a kind of practice. In the ones that go well, it may be easier to see the skills we used -- I had a clear purpose, I was centered, I asked some useful questions that helped my partner get to what was really bothering them.

  Yet, in my experience, it is the challenging, difficult, risky conversations that offer the greatest learning....

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• March 3, 2015
  3Mar2015

  Should I Bring It Up or Not? Purpose and Creativity

  

  You'd think that after 21 years, I might have heard every possible response to the questions posed by the Aikido activities I use to engage participants in my workshops. Never. There's always a new way to view the activity, because the viewer has his or her own unique experience. That's just one of the many things that make my work so enjoyable.

  I'd like to share two new insights with you today...

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• November 12, 2013
  12Nov2013

  Filming for Harvard: An Adventure in Taking Myself Less Seriously

  

  When Harvard Business Publishing asked to interview and fillm me a few months ago, I was honored and delighted. They said they wanted a 2-3 minute video that would engage their management audience in the question: Why is learning to manage difficult conversations a key leadership skill? It didn't occur to me that vanity might play a part. And it was tempting, I have to say, to take myself a little too seriously…

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