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  • December 6, 2016

    It's All So Simple

    It's All So Simple

    In his thoughtful and thought provoking song "Anyone Can Whistle," Stephen Sondheim writes:

    It's all so simple,
    Relax, let go, let fly.
    So someone tell me, why can't I?

    In this month of giving and gathering, when we all do more and push harder, we don't have much time for relaxing and letting go. In our bustling and striving, we barely remember what we're bustling and striving for. In our rush to find the perfect turkey or bottle of wine, we forget why we're looking. Mindful of the next task, we miss being present to this one.

    Sondheim's words make me stop and think about simplicity. As the song says, we can dance tangos, slay dragons, and read Greek. What's hard is simple. But to be simple is hard. I don't know about you, but my growing up was about working harder not easier. Case in point ... this article was originally twice as long and said less.

    I'm just thinking out loud, but what if this holiday season I drafted a new blueprint for success?

  • December 22, 2015

    Tips for Talking at the Holidays

    Tips for Talking at the Holidays

    As you gather with friends and loved ones this holiday season, you may wonder how to navigate the conversations that always come up and often cause conflict. 

    Public Conversations Project

    One of my favorite places to learn and practice healthy dialogue is the Public  Conversations Project in Boston, MA. This past month, PCP blogged about how to manage the difficult topics that often arise at the holiday dinner table. I offer them here. 

  • December 8, 2015

    Your Presence Is the Greatest Gift

    Your Presence Is the Greatest Gift

    This story first appeared on my blog in December 2009. An expanded version is published on my CD, This Little Light: The Gift of Christmas. There's something breathtaking about true presence--when another human being is fully "there" with you. It can surprise you into a state of altered awareness, as it did me when I first wrote the story. 

    If you like the story, there are many more like it on This Little Light. I still catch myself smiling when I listen to it, and I hope you will, too. When you purchase it or any of the other centering resources on my Website, you'll receive a copy as my gift.


    Your Presence Is the Greatest Gift

    As I was heading through the crowded Westin Hotel lobby toward my last conference session, thinking of a zillion things, including making the bus to the airport, I happened to pass Yoichi. I stopped briefly to thank him one more time for his generosity in volunteering to be my partner for the Aikido demonstrations. Skilled, kind, and adaptable, Yoichi was the ideal uke, the partner who attacks, receives the throw and falls, over and over again.

    I stopped in that way I have of not actually stopping. I mean I pause physically, but my body and mind are on the way to the next thing I have to do. But Yoichi really stopped. Yoichi was centered in that moment - was with me completely - and his presence stopped me, too.

  • November 10, 2015

    Unlikely Teachers and Hidden Gifts

    Unlikely Teachers and Hidden Gifts

    November is an inspirational month. I find the cultivation of gratitude a powerful path to centered presence and to finding the gift in every moment. Thanks-giving permeates my thoughts. And there is so much to notice....

  • December 13, 2011

    The Gift of Christmas Presence

    In the coming weeks, as you seek to find the perfect gifts for those you love, consider that what they might really want from you are not presents, but Presence—the true gift of Christmas.

  • December 1, 2009

    Ki Moments December 2009

    My wish for you (and me) is that we remember it’s not how much we do but who we are, and that we are. Your presence is the greatest gift.