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| Feature Article: It's a Habit |
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Do you sometimes have the feeling that you're
running into the same obstacles over and over again?
Many of my conflicts have the same feel to them,
like "Hey, I think I've been here before," but I can't
figure out how I wound up in the same place. The
situation is different, but the conflict feels the same.
I first read this poem in "The Tibetan Book of Living
and Dying" by Sogyal Rinpoche. When I "Googled" it, I
found fourteen pages of links. It's clearly a favorite
with many people; I know it speaks volumes to me.
"Autobiography in Five Chapters"
1) I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost . . . I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
2) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I'm in the same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
3) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in . . . it's a habit
My eyes are open
I know where I am
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
4) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I walk around it
5) I walk down another street.
Does this feel familiar? I am ready to learn that
lesson! I'm sure that I've changed. I can see that
hole coming a mile away. This time it will be different.
I still end up falling in. Tired, sad and angry, I drag
myself up once again. What was I supposed to learn
here? I thought I learned that the last time.
Some conflicts seem to take years to unravel, but if
we stay tuned, and our purpose is to look with
curiosity and awareness, we will find the moment
when we can step around the hole.
As I write, thinking about a recent stumble of my
own, I am smiling a bit. From a distance, I watch
myself drop into the hole - one I know well - and it's
kind of funny. And perhaps that is the way out - to
laugh more often, to "love our mistakes," as my friend
says. I've heard it said that eventually we will laugh
at all our mistakes - the trick is to laugh sooner.
When I can laugh as I climb out of the hole, I'm on
my way to finding the route around it, or better yet,
that alternate street.
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Spend a week in a beautiful mountaintop setting
learning how to achieve inner balance, empowered
relationships, open communications, and clear goals
in daily living.
"This is without a doubt the most beneficial seminar
I've attended in my 25-plus years as a professional."
-- Darwin Niekerk, Director, Business Management
Development, Coors Brewing Company, Golden, CO
Journey to Center, with Thomas Crum, will be held
September 12-16, 2005. Fees ($1850 double
occupancy, $1950 single occupancy) include lodging,
healthy meals, materials, and workshop fee.
Beyond the joy and peace of being in the Colorado
Rockies, Journey to Center is your opportunity to
learn:
- to turn conflicts into real solutions and increased
productivity
- to be calm and act effectively under pressure
- to deal with change and complexity with
power
- to create a better working environment
- to turn stress into vitality
Please email
judy@judyringer.com
with any questions.
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Are you worried about a critical conversation that is
coming up, wondering what to say when your
teammate is late for an important meeting, or curious
about how to manage your reactivity when pressed
for time or performance?
I have a new website specifically devoted to
answering questions about conflict and
communication, and using your power in more
purposeful ways. Visit AskJudyRinger.com and send
your questions. I'll do my best to help out.
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Judy Ringer
Power & Presence Training
76 Park Street
Portsmouth, NH 03801
voice: 603.431.8560
website:
www.judyringer.com
Judy Ringer is Founder of Power & Presence Training,
a Portsmouth, NH company specializing in unique
workshops to help you and your organization manage
conflict, communicate effectively, and co-create a
more positive work environment. E-mail Judy at
judy@judyringer.com for a
free initial meeting to discuss your training needs.
Ki (from Ai-ki-do) is Japanese for life energy. Ki
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