Judy Ringer

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• 15May

  On This Planet: Unlikely Teachers and Hidden Gifts

  

  The game of “Let’s Pretend” is a game we probably all played as children. I think we continue to play as adults—we just forget we’re playing.

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• 1May

  Dealing With Difficult Conflict: There Is No Opponent There

  

  Stop doing what isn’t working. See a big red STOP sign in front of your face when you begin to react in ways you know don’t serve you, have never served you. You don’t have to have a backup plan, though it helps. Just STOP what isn’t working.

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• 6Mar

  Fear of Failure and the Art of Ukemi: 3 Lessons from Aikido

  

  When stakes are high, we often hold back because we’re afraid we’ll make a mistake, look foolish, hurt others, or get hurt ourselves. Using the Aikido metaphor, we’re afraid of falling down.

  In Aikido, falling is an art form—the art of ukemi (receiving). We don’t see falling down as failure, because we don’t see what we’re doing as a contest.

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• 21Feb

  Defusing Anger: Using Non-Verbal Communication Constructively

  

  In a recent workshop with a highly-respected engineering firm, the HR director asked if I had any suggestions about defusing employees who come to her “hot under the collar.” This is what I suggested…

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• 7Feb

  Awareness Training: I Notice, and I Take Delight

  

  Until you notice you’ve been hooked, you can’t do anything about it. You will unconsciously act out the emotion the same way each time because you aren’t there. But! When you can see yourself, even after the fact …. Ah! Everything is different. Because now you have awareness.

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• 24Jan

  FREE WON'T: 5 Steps From Impulsive to Intelligent Behavior

  

  When I choose a new emotional response and repeat it often enough — no, I won’t scream, I’ll breathe and center instead — I form a new habit. I move from impulsive to intelligent behavior.

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• 27Dec

  The Assertiveness Dilemma in Health Care: Advice for Nurses and Nurse Leaders

  

  Not long ago, as a staff nurse in a direct care facility, I was faced with an unsafe work situation.

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• 15Nov

  Resolving Conflict on Turkey Day: 5 Shortcuts to Peace at Thanksgiving

  

  You sit down to Thanksgiving dinner with the best of intentions. You want to savor the stuffing and delight in the pumpkin pie. You know you have a long list of blessings to count. But then it happens . . . your mom treats you like a child, your uncle insults your political beliefs, and your brother, whom you haven’t seen in months, asks if you’ve put on a few pounds.

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• 18Oct

  What If They Don't Want to Resolve the Conflict?

  

  I received a hopeful inquiry from a visitor to my Website recently.

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• 3Oct

  Constructive Criticism in the Workplace: Can You Take It?

  

  Is it criticism or feedback? The answer lies in your perception…

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