Support for life’s “key” moments.
Stop doing what isn’t working. See a big red STOP sign in front of your face when you begin to react in ways you know don’t serve you, have never served you. You don’t have to have a backup plan, though it helps. Just STOP what isn’t working.
When a mom asked me about how to help her 10-year-old daughter Becky solve a problem with her teasing friend, the BLT method was the perfect solution.
If advocating is all you do, you will have few listeners. They’ll get tired or bored. If, on the other hand, you are a skilled listener, people will flock to you. And they will listen back. The most useful strategy for being heard is to educate.
A good friend gave me a book last week, thinking I might like it. The book is “Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion” by Jesuit Priest Gregory Boyle about his work with gangs in Los Angeles, CA. Reading the first chapters in the early spring sun this morning at Beach Pea in Kittery, Maine, I feel calm and centered and blessed.
When stakes are high, we often hold back because we’re afraid we’ll make a mistake, look foolish, hurt others, or get hurt ourselves. Using the Aikido metaphor, we’re afraid of falling down.
In Aikido, falling is an art form—the art of ukemi (receiving). We don’t see falling down as failure, because we don’t see what we’re doing as a contest.
In a recent workshop with a highly-respected engineering firm, the HR director asked if I had any suggestions about defusing employees who come to her “hot under the collar.” This is what I suggested…
Not long ago, as a staff nurse in a direct care facility, I was faced with an unsafe work situation.
If you’re contemplating confronting a coworker, friend, family member, or even someone you don’t know very well, this 7-step checklist will help you address the issue respectfully and take care of yourself in the bargain.
I received a hopeful inquiry from a visitor to my Website recently.
Is it criticism or feedback? The answer lies in your perception…
Ki (pronounced “key”) is Japanese for universal energy or life force; it’s the symbol I use as my logo. Ki Moments are those moments in which you are fully aware of your life force and your ability to influence your environment. Ki Moments hold challenge and opportunity. How you handle them is what makes life interesting and powerful.
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I offer experiential, interactive training, coaching, and keynote presentations on conflict, communication skills, and creating your life and work on purpose. Utilizing the martial art Aikido, I help you change reactive mental and behavioral habits and increase options. I’ve written a book and two CDs to support your practice.
Ki (pronounced “key”) is Japanese for universal energy or life force; it’s the central syllable in Aikido and the symbol you see in my logo.