Judy Ringer

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• 15May

  On This Planet: Unlikely Teachers and Hidden Gifts

  

  The game of “Let’s Pretend” is a game we probably all played as children. I think we continue to play as adults—we just forget we’re playing.

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• 1May

  Dealing With Difficult Conflict: There Is No Opponent There

  

  Stop doing what isn’t working. See a big red STOP sign in front of your face when you begin to react in ways you know don’t serve you, have never served you. You don’t have to have a backup plan, though it helps. Just STOP what isn’t working.

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• 17Apr

  Conflict Resolution for Kids: Breathe, Learn, Talk

  

  When a mom asked me about how to help her 10-year-old daughter Becky solve a problem with her teasing friend, the BLT method was the perfect solution.

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• 3Apr

  The Art of Persuasion: Tips for Getting Your Point Across When No One Is Listening

  

  If advocating is all you do, you will have few listeners. They’ll get tired or bored. If, on the other hand, you are a skilled listener, people will flock to you. And they will listen back. The most useful strategy for being heard is to educate.

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• 20Mar

  Easier Than I Make It: Four Principles and a Gift

  

  A good friend gave me a book last week, thinking I might like it. The book is “Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion” by Jesuit Priest Gregory Boyle about his work with gangs in Los Angeles, CA. Reading the first chapters in the early spring sun this morning at Beach Pea in Kittery, Maine, I feel calm and centered and blessed.

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• 21Feb

  Defusing Anger: Using Non-Verbal Communication Constructively

  

  In a recent workshop with a highly-respected engineering firm, the HR director asked if I had any suggestions about defusing employees who come to her “hot under the collar.” This is what I suggested…

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• 7Feb

  Awareness Training: I Notice, and I Take Delight

  

  Until you notice you’ve been hooked, you can’t do anything about it. You will unconsciously act out the emotion the same way each time because you aren’t there. But! When you can see yourself, even after the fact …. Ah! Everything is different. Because now you have awareness.

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• 24Jan

  FREE WON'T: 5 Steps From Impulsive to Intelligent Behavior

  

  When I choose a new emotional response and repeat it often enough — no, I won’t scream, I’ll breathe and center instead — I form a new habit. I move from impulsive to intelligent behavior.

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• 10Jan

  No Spare Parts: Finding Your Purpose

  

  When I begin something new—like a new project, a new creation, or a new year—I think about these things. What am I doing here? Why am I doing it? What impulse drives me forward? How will I find my way when (inevitably) I get lost, lose energy, or run up against a worthy obstacle?

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• 13Dec

  The Gift of Christmas Presence

  

  In the coming weeks, as you seek to find the perfect gifts for those you love, consider that what they might really want from you are not presents, but Presence—the true gift of Christmas.

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