Ki Moments Blog

Support for life’s “key” moments.

  • New Goggles!

    New Goggles!

    I've been swimming for years and have written lots of stories about lessons learned at the pool. And the hits just keep on coming. New goggles! Who'd have thought they'd inspire a story?

  • Remote Employees: How to Stay Connected

    Remote Employees: How to Stay Connected

    Do you manage employees from different cities, countries or continents?  Referred to as "managing remotely," it's a hot topic in conflict conversations and one I'm often asked about: How does one resolve conflict remotely?

    Moe Carrick, of Moementum, Inc.  goes a long way toward answering that question by suggesting ways to prevent conflicts from developing in the first place -- by taking time for connection.

    When I read Moe's post, I knew it would be helpful to many Ki Moments subscribers, and I reprint it here with Moe's permission.

  • Realizing Empathy - The Book and The Practice

    Realizing Empathy - The Book and The Practice

    Do you find empathy challenging to define and, more significant, to practice when you're in conflict? What is empathy exactly, and how can we find it in ourselves? What has empathy to do with creativity and innovation?


    Seung Chan Lim (aka "Slim") takes on these interesting questions and others in his book, "Realizing Empathy: An Inquiry Into the Meaning of Making."

  • Should I Hold That Difficult Conversation? 7 Clues to Help You Step Up

    Should I Hold That Difficult Conversation? 7 Clues to Help You Step Up

    What prevents you from stepping up to a difficult conversation? At what point does a conversation become a problem rather than an opportunity to clarify, collaborate, and connect?

    When I'm working with organizational leaders stuck in conflict, it's usually because someone has not held a difficult conversation early enough or well. The suppressed energy is causing relationship problems, work flow interruptions, and team divisiveness. The longer the delay, the harder it is to address the issue or even know what it is. The delay adds fuel to the fire, and issues grow larger and more diverse until the original problem is lost in the crowd.

  • All Expenses Paid 30 Years Ago

    All Expenses Paid 30 Years Ago


    My V.A. (virtual assistant) Tracie Shroyer shared this video with me recently. I was touched, as I imagine you will be.

    Just like George Bailey in


  • Managing Conflict in the Workplace: An Aiki Approach

    Managing Conflict in the Workplace: An Aiki Approach

    Once upon a time, conflict stymied people and companies. Every day, they shied away from it or used it to turn relationships into contests. One day, people learned about Aikido. Because of that, they began to understand how to use energy differently. Because of that, they began to see conflict as something to improve their relationships. Until finally, conflict was just a fact of life that everyone accepted and used to their advantage.

  • 10 Rules to Live By: Living Life On Purpose

    10 Rules to Live By: Living Life On Purpose

    About a year ago, I read a guest post by Craig Ballantyne on Leo Babauta’s Zen Habits blog, Craig’s post was called “12 Rules to Live By,” and it made me curious about what rules I live by.


    Some came right away and others later as I considered how I operate day to day, what values guide my actions, and how my life improves when I operate from these values.


    Following Craig’s lead, I scribbled down ten rules and share them here in case they inspire you to scribble down a list of your own….

  • Hold the Difficult Conversations: They Matter

    Hold the Difficult Conversations: They Matter

    "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
    —Martin Luther King, Jr.


    I read this quote yesterday — Martin Luther King Day — and began to wonder how often we are silent when we might speak about things that matter.


    What conversation have you been putting off?
    What matters to you, and where have you become silent?
    When you have something to say, why not say it?
     

  • Staying Present: Shedding Habits

    Staying Present: Shedding Habits

    At some point, if you’re fortunate, you’ll hit a wall of truth and wonder what you’ve been doing with your life…. -Pema Chödrön

  • Meeting Resistance: Accepting What-Is

    Meeting Resistance: Accepting What-Is

    "Oh, you heavenly charmers,
    What things you make of us! For what we lack
    We laugh, for what we have are sorry, still
    Are children in some kind. Let us be thankful
    For that which is, and with you leave dispute
    That are above our question. Let's go off
    And bear us like the time."

    ~William Shakespeare


    When you change, everything changes. While you can't make reality change, when you accept reality it, in fact, changes. The event no longer bothers you. the coworker behaves differently, because they can. They don't have to push back — because you're not pushing…

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