Ki Moments Blog

Support for life’s “key” moments.

  • Paying Attention on My Morning Walk

    Paying Attention on My Morning Walk

    I noticed the first feeling about 20 minutes into the walk. I’m sure there were many others before this one. It’s just that I happened to perceive this one and pay attention.

    It wasn’t new--a familiar combination of anger, regret, disappointment, and a general wishing I could go back and do things over.

  • Start Your Holidays Off with Inspiring Christmas Music and Stories

    Start Your Holidays Off with Inspiring Christmas Music and Stories

    Whether you lose your center in the chaos of the holidays or look forward to each moment, This Little Light: The Gift of Christmas will reinforce the reason for the season. Learn more about Judy's new CD of holiday songs and stories...

  • Happy Thanksgiving!

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Happy Thanksgiving. May it be full of good friends, wonderful food, and warm memories. And may the inevitable conflict be handled with peace, power, and presence!

  • Attitude Adjustment: Inconvenience or Adventure?

    Attitude Adjustment: Inconvenience or Adventure?

    "No bad weather, only inappropriate clothing." So says Benjamin Zander, conductor of the Boston Philharmonic, author, and motivational speaker. This simple mantra has applications in all aspects of life. Things happen. The attitude we bring to those happenings either gives us power or robs us of it.

  • Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 4)

    Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 4)

    It's important to have fun with centering and mindfulness practices, and to know that you may not see a difference today or even tomorrow. Keep practicing, and look back in a year or two. You'll see what's changed.

  • Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 3)

    Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 3)


    I snapped at my husband: "We're going to do it." (Subtext: whether you want to or not.) He snapped back, escalating conversation into confrontation--a common occurrence in uncentered conflict.

    I don't snap that often, so I had to take a look at my reaction. To do that I had to center myself. As Tracie Shroyer put it in her recent post that began this series on Centering and Mindfulness: "Something about intentionally taking a deep breath slows everything down. It brings perspective, quietness and calmness to a crazy situation."

    • How do you get centered, become grounded, mindful and present in life's difficult moments?
    • How do you know when you're centered?
    • What makes you lose it?
    • How can you catch yourself and re-center sooner?

    Today's post is about the connection between centering and emotions. Sometimes our emotional energy is strong enough to hijack our best intentions and damage important relationships. When emotions are high, it's like being in a car that's out of control.

  • Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 2)

    Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 2)

    One of the questions I'm most often asked is: How do you center yourself, especially in a difficult moment? 

    I found Doug Silsbee's core body practice on centering thoughtful, practical, and easy to understand. As Doug suggests, you center yourself in difficult moments by practicing an excercise like this one over and over again until it becomes your default under pressure. Centering is not automatic. A strong center is similar to any strong muscle. It is developed through practice.

  • Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 1)

    Happier: Thoughts and Practices on Centering and Mindfulness (Part 1)

    Today, Ki Moments begins a series of posts on practices to increase centering and mindfulness.

    Its purpose will be to answer these questions:

    • How do I actually do it?
    • How do I get centered, become grounded, more mindful and present in life's difficult moments.
    • As Dan Harris puts it in his new book, 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works--how do I know when I've achieved it?

    In the next weeks, invited guests and I will share thoughts and practices for achieving a more balanced, aware, and centered life, at work and at home. 

    We start with a review and quotations from Dan's' book ...

  • Finding Center in Back to School

    Finding Center in Back to School

    This month there are parents all over the country with a need to find center.  Maybe you’ve left a child at school or maybe your youngest is starting kindergarten and you’re faced with your first day of not knowing what he’s up to every single moment.  Perhaps this is the first year you have no children at home, or even are longing for a child you can send off to school one day.

  • The Manager as Mediator--Step 5: Bringing the Parties Together

    The Manager as Mediator--Step 5: Bringing the Parties Together

    How do I manage conflict between employees?
    What should I do when coworkers don't get along?

    In May, Ki Moments began a series, The Manager as Mediator, designed to help leaders address organizational and personality conflict involving coworkers, management, and leadership teams. The 5-step model offers a coaching intervention and step-by-step process for developing skills in yourself and the people you support.

    This post focuses on the last step in the process: Step #5: Bring the Parties Together.

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